Reputation – What’s that all about?

When I grew up, we used to have these books where our friends could write little comments, poems, tell about their favourite holiday, the name of their pet guinea pig etc. You probably all know what I’m talking about. One particular year, I think I was thirteen, I got a book which also asked whoever wrote in it to rate the owner in different categories. Reputation had never been so clearly measured out for me before.

My best friend gave me 1 point out of 10 in humour.

Reputation is the opinions others have of someone. It’s subjective, but at the same time it gives a picture about how a certain group, at a certain time, perceived someone.

Is it the truth, though? Yes. And no. An opinion of someone can never be deemed false, just like you cannot claim someone’s likes, dislikes, emotions and so on as false, as they are personal and subjective and belonging only to that specific person – they are the truth for that particular person. They can, however, be misguided or mislead.

That an opinion someone has of someone cannot be deemed false does not make it right or true, though. It might be right for one person, or even a large group of people, to think that a person is mean and therefore give him a bad reputation, but that does not say anything about how that person really is, only how one group of people perceive him.

Reputation, just like thoughts and feelings, are based on subjective opinions of other people, and who are to judge which of these opinions are more right than the other?

How many times have you not had your own opinion on a matter or a person coloured simply because of the reputation that person or thing already had? Maybe your friend’s mother’s aunt’s neighbour knew X and had told you she was a good babysitter, so you hired her? Or maybe you had seen brand Z in a commercial in tv, so you bought that rather than the unknown brand Y? Or perhaps you never applied for a job at company A simply because you had heard someone say the boss was an idiot? All of these things might be right for you, or they could be wrong. You won’t know until you have checked them out yourself.

Subjective opinion or not, reputation is here and it’s a part of the lives of everyone. We have a reputation amongst our mates, another with our family. Our colleagues see us one way, the bank might disagree. We all have several different reputations, all depending on who we ask.

We judge others and contribute to the making of reputations ourselves, too. We buy certain cds, watch certain movies, review certain books, make friends with certain people. Even if we are careful never to say a negative thing about a person, we still help create the reputations of others simply by being around them. Or by not being around them.

Reputations aren’t bad, though. They are merely opinions and they’re subjective, and that’s what we have to remember. We have to remember it when we hear about the reputation of other people, and not be so fast to judge. And we have to remember it when we see our own reputation and realize how other people perceive us.

I have seen far too many times that a reputation has turned bad for some reason or other, and I have seen the effects it can have on a person. As have been said before, give a dog a bad name and hang it.

We are not our reputation, or even what our reputation claims us to be, and neither is anyone else. It’s merely someone’s opinion.

We can act a certain way, and try to make people see us in a certain light. We can even try to create our own reputation. But people are tricky and sometimes your idea of a good citizen/talented writer/good parent/best friend/super dinner/peaceful holiday is not at all what your neighbour think it is. It’s a difference of opinions.

We can’t shape our personality and behaviour based on the opinions of other people, we need to find out what we believe is right for us. Sometimes people will disagree, and that’s alright, we just have to move on and keep doing what we believe is right. Sometimes it’ll give us the reputation of being weird, silly, selfish, stubborn, and at other times it might give us the reputation of being strong, smart, talented or kind. Or even all of those. What truly matters is that you lead your life by what you believe in, not by what other people think.

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This post was written as part of the Zero to Hero challenges as well as the Daily Prompt of January the 17th.

Where My Heart Belongs

Swiss Alps

Running feet, down the hills,
Laughter and sunshine,
My heart fills.

Wind on my cheeks, rain in my hair,
Thunder and storms,
Birds in the air.

Melting snow, streams a-flowing,
Seasons change,
My heart is growing.

This is the Alps, this home of mine,
Here I breathe, here I love.
This is the Alps, my heart’s true home.

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After a few days of not being very active in the Zero to Hero challenge, I decided to answer today’s assignment – Day 15: Learn more about how visuals influence content, with a blog post. I love when people are able to include just the right photos with their writing, and I will try and see if I can get better at doing that myself.

In other Zero to Hero news, I’ve also been playing around with Pinterest as a source for visual inspiration, but more of that in a different post!

Liebster Award – Nominations

When I was nominated to a Liebester Award by Chris Musgrave, I was unsure how to go about it. I just felt extremely honoured that he thought of my blog when nominating, and I hope that by nominating a few blogs myself, I can pass on that feeling to someone else.

Before posting my nominations, I will follow Chris’ example and briefly sum up the guidelines regarding accepting the Liebster Award:

1. Thank the person who nominated you and link to their blog.
2. You must answer the 10 questions given to you by the nominee before you. (That list is below the nominations.)
3. You must nominate 5 – 10 of your favorite blogs with fewer than 200 followers and notify them of their nomination.
4. You must come up with 10 questions for your nominees to answer.

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My nominees for the Liebster Award, in no particular order, are:

  • Chasing Rabbits
  • Adventures in Writing
  • “Aspernaut” and other musings…
  • Sunrise Adventures
  • Apropos of nothing
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    My questions for those bloggers:

    1. What is one thing you would like to achieve with your blog?

    2. What’s your favorite way of expressing yourself?

    3. If you were an animal, what would you be?

    4. Where’s your perfect place to relax?

    5. What’s your favourite book?

    6. If you were a superhero, what super power would you have?

    7. If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?

    8. What’s your favourite time of the day?

    9. Book or movie?

    10. Summer, winter, spring or fall?

    A Surprise – A Liebster Award!

    Liebster

    I must admit that I was quite surprised when I came online yesterday and opened my mail – only to discover that I had been nominated for a Liebster Award!

    I never intended for this blog to be read by many people. There are so many talented writers and bloggers out there, this was only going to be my playground, a place for me to practise and keep writing, and somewhere to add my thoughts and musings. However, I cherish every like or positive comment I get and I’m thrilled that my writing, however imperfect it still is, can inspire fellow bloggers or at least cause someone to smile or give a nod in recognition.

    Thank you Chris Musgrave for this nomination. I feel truly honoured that you thought my blog deserved this special mention. Thank you!

    With this nomination comes a few obligations. First of all I’ll answer the questions asked by Chris Musgrave, and then I’ll add my own nominations in another post as this one is already getting very long!

    Now onto the questions:

    1. Do you have an evil laugh and how often do you use it?
    I don’t think anyone has ever called my laugh evil. Maybe that’s something I need to work on!

    2. Do you prefer Sci-fi or fantasy (sub-genres accepted)?
    Fantasy all the way! Though, I must admit I’m liking sci-fi more and more. It’s two of my favourite genres in both books and movies.

    3. Tell me something that you have done which you are particularly proud of.
    I worked as a volunteer with children with special needs for a few years before I started uni, and some of the moments and achievements I experienced there are very special to me.

    4. Have you ever devised an escape plan in the event your work/school is taken over by a hostile force?
    Not exactly a detailed plan, but I’d be lying if I said I had never thought of it!

    5. What is your favourite book/poem and why?
    Oh dear, that’s tough! I have already mentioned a few books I really like in previous posts and could go on listing more till everyone’s tired of listening. However, I will stick to the question and just pick one! I read John Marsden’s ‘Tomorrow when the war began’ series a few years ago, and though it is mainly aimed for teenagers, it really spoke to me and managed to keep my attention glued to the pages and wanting more, even after I had finished the last book. As for why? I think there was something refreshing over it. The genre was new for me in many ways and at first I wasn’t sure what to expect, but the amazing character descriptions and the interesting plot lines kept my attention firmly.

    6. If you could be anything, what would you be?
    That’s hard. Whatever I become, I want to be good at it! Jobs and careers aside, it would be pretty awesome to be the one who found a cure for cancer.

    7. Name one thing on your bucket list that you have yet to achieve/experience.
    If I made one such list right now, I think most of it would be made up of places to travel to. One place in particular I’d love to visit is New Zealand.

    8. What are your thoughts on censorship? Do you think it can ever be justified?
    Another tough one. I’d say yes, there are cases where it can be justified to censor certain things, mostly when it comes to things shown to a young audience. The question is just who gets to choose what should be censored and where the lines goes.

    9. Who is the one person who can always make you smile?
    My fiancé.

    10. Are you bored of all these questions yet?
    Actually not. It has been pretty interesting!

    Once again, thank you Chris Musgrave for your nomination! I’ll post my list of nominees tomorrow as well as my questions.

    The Chase

    Cloaked figures hiding,
    Pressing close,
    Seeking shelter.

    Wind over sunburned fields,
    Hoofs galloping,
    Echoing hills.

    Danger is coming,
    Evil is near.
    There’s no time for stopping,
    No greater fear.

    Birds in the sky,
    Black thunder,
    Chasing, running wild.

    Through forest,
    Over mountain,
    Through darkness and fear.

    Danger is coming,
    Evil is near.
    There’s no time for stopping,
    No greater fear.

    Outnumbered and few,
    On knees and on hands
    We search in our souls,
    United we stand.

    This short poem was written with inspiration from one of my favourite books, a book which has been made into a movie not that many years ago. 

    Onwards we go

    The sound of thunder,
    Rain splashing on the ground.
    Lightning striking,
    Faltering, falling.

    Hands reaching for the sky,
    Feet on wooden floors.
    Branches and thorns,
    Mountains to climb.

    Rays of sunlight,
    Looking through the clouds.
    Wind rushing,
    Fluttering, flying.

    Heads bending in the wind,
    Shoulders squared and strong.
    Burns and scratches,
    Rivers to cross.

    Through wind and through rain,
    Over mountain and field.
    Always moving, never stopping.
    Always trying,
    Always reaching.
    Onwards we go.

    Quote of the Day

    There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies. My brain and my heart are my temples; my philosophy is kindness.

    – Dalai Lama

     

    This quote inspired some of my thoughts in my most recent blog post, The Philosophy of Life – In Pursuit of Happiness.

    For me, Dalai Lama’s quote is inspiring and though it’s short and the idea is simple, it speaks volumes to me. It brings focus back to you as a person – it’s your life and you make it yourself. You are the one responsible for creating your own life, and in doing so you need to use both your intellect, but also your heart. You need to look inside yourself and figure out what it is you want with life, no one else can make that decision for you.